Change The Habit You Hate!

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You deserve a better life.

Art of stopping the Habits you hate and change into the better person you’d wanted. Change your destructive behaviors today.

What did you know about destructive behaviors ?
How many few millions of times did you try stopping some of the habits you don’t like?

Did you really quit them? Do you ask yourself why you weren’t able? Then congratulations, today’s article is going to tell you why most of the times you failed to change those destructive behaviors and most importantly, it explained how you can quit your bad habits. But take note that, I didn’t promise to completely change your bad habits into good ones however, I guarantee you this article will change the way you see yourself and that is the key to changing any habit. Let’s go!


Your life, today is essentially the little-little add ups of your daily routines and schedules, that’s a habit. And it’s strongly connected to your happiness and success.

Wait a minute, did you think that, the destructive behaviors are only the act of drinking alcohol, cutting oneself, self-isolation, drugs abuse, purging, gambling, suicide, and self-mutilation,?
No, Self-destructive behaviors include the commonly practiced cigarettes smoking, procrastination, overeating, over/unpurposed shopping, any form of unprotected sexual practices, threatening other peoples and nail-biting are all included and are so problematic.

“The quickest path to self-destruction is to push away the people you love.” ― Cassia Leo, Pieces of You.

Everyone is then likely a victim, but some habits are more serious and deleterious than others. Keep in tract you are soon going to understand why you did something you regret about and later on, you do it again.

Habit loop and Habit Formation
Every habit is built from three most important key factors and altering either of these can disrupt a habit. To simplify the way, lets take a step at a time:-

Cue:
This is a small but very important and start-up point of almost every habit. Cue is the first impression and the very first thing that caught your attention to act in a particular way. For example, did you really know why you can’t keep away from your phone for as long as five hours or more? How about buying or eating sweet you didn’t plan to? Or maybe some chips or snacks when you had a walk?
To understand cue better, it is the first thing you are attracted with before acting. Sometimes, we’re not thirsty but as soon as we see a cup of water, we rush for a sip. Many peoples are able to keep their phone away but not when they can hear its sound or vibration of Facebook and email’s notifications. A few people couldn’t at all drop their phone so long they see it and that’s why they leave it in a room before going to the library or class.
Therefore, the presences of the sweet you feel in your pocket, the scent of the snacks you smell, the sight you have at the cup of water, the sound or vibration of your phone you feel, are all cue. Cue is simply the very first thing that draws you into a particular action.

Routine/Action.
Routine or action is the reason you regret every time you did something you hate. It’s the reason you feel the shame, pity, comfortable or uncomfortable after you behaved. It is the effect followed after a CUE.
It so happened that when you hear the ring tone, you rush. When you sight the sweet you buy even if you didn’t plan for it. And when you walk by KFC or McDonald, you have a break even if you swear not to. Routine is the act of raising a bottle of alcohol to drink or the act of smoking whenever the urge flushed.
However, if you didn’t follow the routine or you didn’t make the action, you wouldn’t be disappointed at yourself. But how can one stop himself from going through the routine or stop himself from the temptation of the action? That is what you are going to know in a few minutes.

Everyone is then likely a victim, but some habits are more serious and deleterious than others. Keep in tract you are soon going to understand why you did something you regret about and later on, you do it again.

Habit loop and Habit Formation
Every habit is built from three most important key factors and altering either of these can disrupt a habit. To simplify the way, lets take a step at a time:-

Cue:
This is a small but very important and start-up point of almost every habit. Cue is the first impression and the very first thing that caught your attention to act in a particular way. For example, did you really know why you can’t keep away from your phone for as long as five hours or more? How about buying or eating sweet you didn’t plan to? Or maybe some chips or snacks when you had a walk?
To understand cue better, it is the first thing you are attracted with before acting. Sometimes, we’re not thirsty but as soon as we see a cup of water, we rush for a sip. Many peoples are able to keep their phone away but not when they can hear its sound or vibration of Facebook and email’s notifications. A few people couldn’t at all drop their phone so long they see it and that’s why they leave it in a room before going to the library or class.
Therefore, the presences of the sweet you feel in your pocket, the scent of the snacks you smell, the sight you have at the cup of water, the sound or vibration of your phone you feel, are all cue. Cue is simply the very first thing that draws you into a particular action.

Routine/Action.
Routine or action is the reason you regret every time you did something you hate. It’s the reason you feel the shame, pity, comfortable or uncomfortable after you behaved. It is the effect followed after a CUE.
It so happened that when you hear the ring tone, you rush. When you sight the sweet you buy even if you didn’t plan for it. And when you walk by KFC or McDonald, you have a break even if you swear not to. Routine is the act of raising a bottle of alcohol to drink or the act of smoking whenever the urge flushed.
However, if you didn’t follow the routine or you didn’t make the action, you wouldn’t be disappointed at yourself. But how can one stop himself from going through the routine or stop himself from the temptation of the action? That is what you are going to know in a few minutes.

Rewards
While Cue is the opener and Routine is the pathway, Rewards is what sometimes bring the real problem. It’s the reason you acted because you need some sort of gratification.
Rewards are the sense of satisfaction, blessings or relief you perceive after doing what you aren’t supposed to –that bad habit. And the reward is what builds up a sense of Crave. It’s the happiness you feel after or during reading a text on Facebook, the taste you lick around your mouth when you bought the sweet.

Sometimes, immediately after the reward you start regretting; “I don’t know why I embezzled.”
“I said I wouldn’t go to the club again.”
“I don’t know why. I swear to myself so many times that I will never smoke again but I can’t.”
No, you can. Repeat after me “I can.”

Guides To The Breaking A Habit.
Now that you understand the three basics of habit, let move toward the art of restructuring a habit. If you didn’t understand any of the above points I recommend you read over again.
To reshape your habits, you need to take a simple assignment of yourself. Now find a pen and a sheet of paper (Don’t deceive yourself that you can do it off hand. Go and take a pen and paper!)

  1. Now write down the habit you want quit.
  2. Think and verify the cue/cues to your habit.
  3. No need to write the Routine because that is what you want to work on, then find out the reward and write it down.

After the above assignment, review the paper over and over mentioning your routing in mind (maybe cigarette smoking).
Think how can you stop or change the Action/Routine when you are caught up by that same cue you wrote. #you can neither change the Cue nor the Reward. And trying to change the cue is like telling every drug-stores to close because your cue to drug abuse is seeing the wide-open doors of the shop while you’re passing by. However, the reward is the outcome of your action, so no way can you change reward and only “Routine/Action” can be reshaped and remodeled.

Review The Following.
-If you are a nail-biter, consider rubbing your hands against your body when you feel like biting.
-If you’re used to overeating, tell your brother, father, sister or mother about your decision and make sure they set a limit whenever you will eat.
-Do you always procrastinate? Then set a bound line; don’t eat breakfast until you write a page or more if you are a writer.
-At any cost, promise yourself not to eat or sleep until you finish your homework.
-Set a goal that you wouldn’t entertain your phone until you read at least four pages if you’re a student.

The above clues seemed simple but in reality, are never simple. Now that you identified your cue you understand what the rewards are, and most importantly is that, you know how to adjust your routine, then practice it every day and always. You can’t be a better person you’d wish at once or overnight. But you can surely do it bit by bit and that’s what matters.

Contributing Factors.
While struggling to gain a better version of yourself, don’t forget that the Cue–Routine–Reward axis is not the whole job. There is always somethings that supports them and serves as maintaining factors. Therefore to rebuild one’s character and habit the following points are crucial:
i. Proper and sound sleep.
ii. Healthy food.
iii. One at a time; do not say you will change all your habits simultaneously in a very first time, be patient and take the minimum possible.
iv. Feel the pain and stay uncomfortable whenever you remember your fault habit.
v. Create a good and helping environment; it would be hard to quit smoking while you always are in a company of smokers.
vi. Ask for help from family members, teacher or a good friend whenever necessary; make them hold you accountable for your decision.
vii. The most important factor is that “You must believe that you can change and you must be uncomfortable with you fault doings.”


Welcome to the last part. Now that you’d make it up till this much, then the last but not the least point is, make a record of your progress each day or week. Example, If you’re used to smoke once a day, judge yourself if you can make it a week or month without a cigarette.


Why Habit Are Hard To Change?
-Trying to change everything at a time.
-Bad planning.
-Trying to begin with a the biggest fault.
-Not changing your environment; e.g you want to quit smoking but you still roaming around with friends of the same habit then solution, could hardly workout.
-Doubting your capacity.

Thank you.
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    1. Ameen. This is nothing but a part in your dedication and the never tired efforts. With your support, more dreams will come true I pray. Proud to show you up any where any time, thanks a mentor, a father, teacher and roll model.

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